Chasing Dreams With A Gypsy State Of Mind

If you asked me five years ago what I pictured my life to be like at 25-years-old, my answer would not be chasing big city dreams with a gypsy state of mind.

I can’t pinpoint exactly when or where my life took a 360-turn and everything changed — my spirit, my desire for more, my independence, my zest for life.

But, I can tell you that it all started with heartbreak and hitting my personal, darkest, most-ultimate low. A point in time where I came to realize that I wasn’t living a life that was undeniably mine, pushing my limits to really understand the meaning of my life; or what my purpose was.

I wish I had a better explanation for how my mindset and perspective changed, because I know how many people in this world could really use that type of advice right now — but I don’t. All I really have to say is that one day, I woke up from this new level of darkness and heartache that I didn’t understand, and made a conscious decision to fight back. I know just as well as the next person, that heartbreak and depression affect every angle of your life, from every spectrum across the board — but even so, it can [at times] be what triggers and reignites that fire, curiosity, and ambition that has since been lost.

At a certain point, I decided I wanted more for myself; I needed more for myself, and I made a commitment to say yes to every opportunity in order to live my best, most fulfilling life.

So, why does this even matter? What has one, single decision of just saying yes to life done for me?

Professionally

  • Promotions and taking on a larger role with a leading premium content publisher.

Personally

  • Taking pride and dedication in taking my writing journey to the next level — working more closely with Thought Catalog and ENTITY Mag as an established Author on leading content and media magazine platforms.
  • Building my personal brand: creating effective social content and collaborating with top-brands around the world.
  • Traveling: Instead of placing my worth in the hands of others, I’ve taken full control and ownership of my worth through practicing self-love and sharing it with new places and people — from varying ways and walks of life; coast to coast and internationally.
  • Making a difference. To learn and know myself well enough to not care about contrasting opinions — to stay true to my heart, share my love, and encourage those from all over the world. To make a difference whenever, wherever possible.

So, why does this even matter? This matters because YOU CAN come back from the dark place. YOU CAN start over; create a life that was destined to be yours. YOU CAN create your own success story. YOU CAN change your perspective; YOU CAN change your life.

This matters because for the last several years, I’ve had people repeatedly asking me how I can just do what I do; in my professional and personal life, from all over the world. Well, my answer is really quite simple. I decided to say yes. I decided to live my life, not according to social norm and expectations; but exactly the opposite.

To live my life differently from anyone else; to shape my life based on my dreams, my wishes, and my passions. 

My happiness and my success are not defined by the amount of money I make — my happiness and success are defined by finding passion and purpose in everything I do; sharing unwavering love, encouragement, and spontaneity with everyone, anywhere, and everywhere in this world.

How you define your happiness and success — well, that is 100% completely and unashamedly up to YOU.

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Officially Taking MDW To…😏

Welcome to New York, it’s been waitin’ for you. ❤️

As anyone and their mothers could imagine, I live a very chaotic, high performance, spontaneous lifestyle.

I don’t like becoming too comfortable in one place for too long because all I want to do is find a new adventure, meet new people, and experience a different side of the world. My heart literally craves the high and adrenaline rush that comes from always being on-the-go; picking a place on a map and just saying yes.

So naturally, as everyone started asking about my Memorial Day Weekend plans [and realizing how I really hadn’t planned anything at all…] I went to one of my best girlfriends who lives in the heart of Manhattan. We have been talking about me coming to NYC for like, ever, but life’s crazy has gotten in the way more than a couple of times.

It took us a solid ten minutes, give or take, to purchase my tickets and plan a full blown Manhattan girls weekend.

Side note: last week was the most insane work week of my life, I thought I would honestly need through MDW to sleep off the stress. So…

Needless to say, there’s no place I’d rather let loose than THE BIG APPLE!

Lots of people ask me how I can afford these random, last minute trips. Well, I have a travelers trick for y’all. 😜

Two words: Hopper App

Seriously, it’s the greatest. It’s where I bought my Ireland, Iceland, and now New York City round trip tickets — and it’s super easy!

  • Download Hopper from your mobile App Store
  • Enter your travel to and from destinations
  • Voila! Hopper will spit out the lowest rates out there (seriously, sometimes these rates are crazy not to jump on…)

So, to all my wanderlust travel bugs out there — you’ve found your saving grace! I’m not a millionaire and I don’t have a tree of unlimited cash, but I do put a decent chunk of change in my savings account with each paycheck, so if I can find a way to do what I love at 25…you can too. 😘

Obviously, there’s going to be never-ending photos and videos of my Manhattan adventures, so be sure to follow along @alexaraeloebel. New York may be the next city to steal my heart…🌍❤️

We’ll find out, NYC!

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Single State Of Mind

Just as any other 25-year-old single woman, I get asked one question, far more often than most.

So today, I’m going to give you both vulnerable and blatantly honest, yet very different answers to the universal, million dollar question.

Why are you single?

I’m single because I friend-zone before I fall. While I have an immense amount of love to give, I feel pretty close to incapable of opening my heart and life to someone else. At least right here and right now. Not out of fear of rejection or heartbreak, because that I can handle. Rather, it stems from feeling skeptical of what exactly true and genuine love has the potential to be.

I’m single because I have a very difficult time trusting men. I have always been the type of person to have a pretty good and fairly accurate read on people after meeting them — yet even if it’s the nicest guy in the world, a part of me will always remain cautious and skeptical until actions have proven otherwise. This has more to do with past experiences than it does with any one specific person.

I’m single because I know my heart, and I know it well. When it’s right, I know my heart will allow me to open up and fall unapologetically. Until then, I’m perfectly content not rushing into anything — seeking love just doesn’t seem right, or worth it for that matter. But, patient and genuine love does.

There you have it — my three main [and extremely vulnerable] answers to the million dollar question. That said, there’s still a greater story around this question. So, here are my open and blatantly honest answers…

I’m single because I love being single. That’s an easy one. I love playing the game of life by my own rules, pushing my own limits, and pressing pause on any given chapter at any given time. I love the high that comes from paving my own path and building my very own success story. I love being wild and free, taking on any and every challenge, anywhere in the world, because I have nothing holding me back or keeping me tied down.

I’m single because, quite frankly, I just don’t like dating. It’s exhausting and confusing. I have way too many other priorities in my own hectic, always on-the-go, life to have dating become a set priority. To be honest, I prefer to not even use the word “date” or “dating”. I’d rather just say let’s go grab food, hang out, go to the park — I will legitimately use any word but date.

I’m single because I’m fully invested in my friendships. My girlfriends are my rock, my voice of reason, my people. More often than not, this is why I result to friend-zoning men to begin with. Out of building that level of comfort and trust from the get-go, yes. But also because I have come to value true, genuine, and quality friendships before relationships, and maintaining them is a priority.

I’m single because I value and appreciate my “me” time. I live a very chaotic, high-performance life — both personally and professionally. Learning to love being alone at times; and taking that time to be really, truly present and in the moment. That in itself has taken lots of practice and time. And I love it. It allows me to put my to-be-continued success story as #1.

I’m single because I’m a wanderer. I don’t like to stay in one place for too long. I like new and exciting. I live for the thrill and spontaneous adventure. I have too many places to see, cultures to experience, and people to meet before settling down with one person in one place.

I’m single because I’m so comfortable in my own skin. Maybe a little too comfortable…either way, I love living my own life on my own terms, by my own playbook, setting my own rules.

I’m single because I realize I only have so many years to be really, truly single. I only have so much time to create the life I wanted; a life designed specifically for me, my vision, and my passions before I have to think about sharing all of it with someone else. This is the time in my life where I am my #1 priority.

I’m single because I have too much love in my heart and soul to share with far too many people, places, and things in this world. At this moment, right here, right now. 

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